The Grounded Path to a Multifaceted Life
Throughout my life there has been points where I realized I was doing too much—and somehow still not doing what mattered most. I was juggling ideas, roles, responsibilities, and dreams, all while telling myself this was just the price of being multifaceted. From the outside, it looked like ambition and momentum. From the inside, it felt like exhaustion masked as purpose.
I wasn’t disconnected from my vision. I was disconnected from myself.
That tension between who I knew I was and how I was actually living forced me to slow down and get honest about what a grounded, multifaceted life really requires.
When Being “Realistic” Starts to Shrink You
I’ve noticed how often we’re encouraged to be realistic when what people really mean is “be smaller.” Don’t want too much. Don’t dream too far ahead. Don’t stretch beyond what’s already been proven.
But every meaningful shift in my life came from believing in something before there was evidence. From holding a vision that didn’t yet fit neatly into my current circumstances. That belief has been labeled many things over the years—impractical, unrealistic, even delusional.
What I’ve learned is that a certain kind of delusion isn’t ungrounded at all. It’s anchored in possibility. It’s the ability to see beyond present constraints without denying present reality.
Delusion as a Form of Grounded Vision
For me, delusion isn’t pretending things are perfect. It’s choosing to believe that more is possible while still taking responsibility for where I am. It’s allowing imagination to lead without abandoning logic.
As a multifaceted founder and creative, I’ve had to accept that my life will never be one-dimensional. Trying to force myself into a single lane only led to burnout and self-doubt. Embracing the fullness of who I am—my ideas, my contradictions, my evolving interests—gave me permission to design a life that actually fits.
That shift didn’t make things easier overnight, but it made them clearer.
Gratitude Keeps the Vision from Becoming a Chase
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that vision without gratitude turns into constant dissatisfaction. When you’re always focused on what’s next, you miss the quiet evidence that you’re already building something meaningful.
Gratitude grounds me in the present without trapping me there. It allows me to appreciate what’s working, what’s supporting me, and what I’ve already survived. From that place, dreaming bigger doesn’t feel desperate—it feels intentional.
A multifaceted life isn’t about constant striving. It’s about alignment.
Prioritization Is an Act of Self-Respect
I used to think I needed to do everything to prove I was capable. Now I understand that doing everything was the fastest way to dilute my energy.
Prioritization became my lifeline. Not because I lacked ambition, but because I finally valued execution over accumulation. Choosing what matters most—season by season—helped me move from scattered effort to meaningful progress.
Execution isn’t about hustle. It’s about clarity.
Community Makes the Load Lighter
I wouldn’t be here without support. And not just any support, an intentional, affirming community that sees my complexity as strength, not confusion.
Being surrounded by people who understand the weight and beauty of carrying multiple callings has been grounding in ways I didn’t expect. Community reminds me that I don’t have to hold everything alone, and that rest doesn’t mean I’m falling behind.
Support systems aren’t a bonus. They’re essential.
The Shift from Burnout to Alignment
The grounded path to a multifaceted life isn’t about doing less forever or doing more flawlessly. It’s about making choices that support the person you’re becoming, not just the goals you’re chasing.
I stopped asking, “How much can I handle?” and started asking, “What actually deserves my energy?” That question changed everything.
If you’ve ever felt torn between your many interests and your need for peace, you’re not alone. A multifaceted life doesn’t require you to fragment yourself—it asks you to root yourself deeply enough to grow in multiple directions.
If this reflection resonates and you want to hear how I unpack these ideas more organically, you can listen to the conversation on The Multifaceted Mindset podcast. Sometimes hearing the thoughts unfold in real time adds another layer of clarity.
Wherever you are on your path, I hope you choose alignment over overwhelm—and give yourself permission to believe in the life you’re building, even before it fully exists.
A Path to Transformative Success
There was a season of my life where I felt pulled in a dozen directions at once. Ideas overflowing, responsibilities stacking, vision expanding faster than my capacity to execute. On the outside, it looked like ambition. On the inside, it felt like friction. I wasn’t lacking vision—I was lacking alignment.
Being multifaceted is a gift, but without intention, it can quietly become a burden. I’ve learned that clarity isn’t about doing less because you’re capable of less. It’s about doing what actually supports the life you’re trying to build.
That realization is what led me to anchor my life and work in a framework I return to again and again—not as a checklist, but as a way of being.
When Potential Outpaces Structure
For a long time, I believed that wanting something badly enough would carry me there. And while desire matters, it isn’t enough. I watched myself burn energy on good ideas that weren’t supported by systems. I felt frustration when effort didn’t translate into progress. I saw how easy it was to confuse motion with momentum.
The truth I had to face was simple but humbling: vision without structure leads to burnout. And structure without belief leads to stagnation. I needed both.
Gratitude as Grounding, Not Settling
Gratitude is often framed as something soft, but for me, it’s been stabilizing. It’s the practice of telling the truth about where I am without shame and without fantasy.
Gratitude grounds me in reality. It reminds me that my current season isn’t a failure; it’s a starting point. When I acknowledge what I already have—skills, relationships, lessons—I stop chasing from a place of lack and start building from a place of wholeness.
This isn’t about settling. It’s about standing firmly where I am so I can move forward without resentment toward my own journey.
Logistics Bring Vision Down to Earth
Dreams become overwhelming when they stay abstract. Logistics is where imagination meets responsibility.
This part of my process asks hard, clarifying questions: What does this actually require of me? What needs to be prioritized? What support systems am I missing? What am I trying to do alone that was never meant to be solo?
Logistics isn’t restrictive; it’s relieving. It turns “someday” into something tangible. It gives my ideas somewhere to land instead of letting them spin endlessly in my head.
Audacity Is the Bridge Between Knowing and Doing
I’ve learned that clarity doesn’t automatically create courage. There are moments when I know the next step, but fear tries to negotiate with me. Audacity is what interrupts that negotiation.
Audacity is choosing action before confidence shows up. It’s sending the email, asking the question, making the decision, even when the outcome isn’t guaranteed. It’s trusting that movement creates feedback, and feedback creates refinement.
Without audacity, plans stay perfect and untouched. With it, they become real.
Delusion as Sacred Vision
This is the part people misunderstand the most and the part I protect the hardest.
Delusion, for me, isn’t denial. It’s devotion to a future reality that hasn’t caught up yet. It’s holding a vision that doesn’t make sense to everyone, especially when you’re still in the middle of becoming.
There were times when believing in what I saw ahead felt irrational. But imagination has always been the birthplace of change. Delusion allows me to move as if alignment is inevitable, even when evidence is still forming.
The Shift: From Chaos to Clarity
What changed everything wasn’t learning something new; it was organizing what I already knew. Gratitude grounded me. Logistics focused me. Audacity moved me. Delusion sustained me.
Together, they became a rhythm instead of a rulebook. A way to honor my multifaceted nature without letting it fracture my energy.
I don’t aim for balance anymore. I aim for alignment.
If you’re carrying a lot, you’re not broken. You might just be unstructured in a way that doesn’t serve who you’re becoming yet. Clarity isn’t about shrinking yourself. It’s about supporting yourself.
And if this reflection resonates and you want to hear how I unpack these ideas in real time, you can listen to the conversation on The Multifaceted Mindset podcast. Sometimes hearing the thoughts spoken aloud adds another layer of understanding.
Wherever you are on your path, I hope you keep going with intention, courage, and vision intact.
Loving Yourself First to Love Others Better
February often brings a heavy focus on how we show up for others. We celebrate romance, friendship, and family, often measuring our worth by the depth of our external connections. But for multifaceted people—those of us who carry a wide range of interests, identities, and roles—the most important connection starts within. This month, we are exploring how the practice of self-love is the essential foundation for building a meaningful community.
The Complexity of Self-Love
For someone with many layers, self-love isn't just about "treating yourself." It is about the radical act of accepting every version of who you are. It means loving the side of you that is ambitious and driven just as much as the side that needs rest and solitude. When you love yourself first, you stop waiting for others to give you permission to be complex. You provide that permission for yourself, which allows you to show up in community without the need to hide or minimize your parts.
Filling Your Own Cup
We often hear that you cannot pour from an empty cup. For the multifaceted person, that cup is filled by honoring your diverse needs. Maybe you need creative expression to feel whole, or perhaps you need intellectual stimulation to feel alive. By prioritizing these needs, you ensure that when you do step into community, you are doing so from a place of abundance rather than depletion. Loving yourself first means recognizing that your "many-ness" requires specific care, and providing that care is what enables you to be a supportive, present friend and partner.
Authenticity as a Gift to Others
When you master the art of loving your own multifaceted nature, you give others the greatest gift possible: your authentic self. Self-love removes the mask. It allows you to enter relationships and communities as a whole person, which in turn invites others to do the same. By loving yourself first, you set the standard for how you should be treated and how you will treat others. You move away from people-pleasing and toward genuine connection.
Community as an Extension of Self-Care
True community should feel like an extension of the love you already have for yourself. It should be a space that mirrors your self-acceptance and supports your growth. This February, as we celebrate love in all its forms, let’s remember that the most vibrant communities are made up of individuals who have done the work to love themselves first. When we are grounded in our own self-worth, our collective power becomes unstoppable.
Sincerely,
Multifaceted Black Guide
Embracing the Multifaceted Mindset
For as long as I can remember, my mind has never moved in straight lines. Ideas come fast, layered, and often all at once. One moment I’m dreaming up a new community initiative, the next I’m reimagining my content, my business model, or my life altogether.
For a long time, I thought something was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I just pick one thing and stick to it? Why did clarity feel so close yet so out of reach?
What I’ve learned is this: being multifaceted isn’t the problem. The challenge is learning how to hold complexity without burning yourself out—and how to move from inspired ideas to intentional action.
What It Really Means to Be Multifaceted
Being multifaceted doesn’t mean you’re unfocused. It means you see possibilities others overlook. You’re someone who carries multiple passions, identities, and callings at the same time.
The tension comes when the world demands specialization, boxes, and linear paths—while your spirit craves expansion. I’ve had to unlearn the belief that I need to shrink or abandon parts of myself to succeed. I don’t believe our ideas are meant to die just because they don’t fit neatly into someone else’s framework.
The work isn’t about choosing less of yourself. It’s about choosing what matters most right now.
Why Prioritization Is About Flexibility, Not Force
One of the biggest mindset shifts I’ve had is realizing that discipline wasn’t my issue—rigidity was. Traditional prioritization often looks like ranking tasks in a fixed order and forcing productivity, even when life shifts.
Instead, I’ve embraced a more fluid approach. My priorities orbit my life, not the other way around. Some seasons require deep focus on one thing; other seasons allow multiple projects to coexist at different intensities.
Progress doesn’t require perfection. It requires awareness. When you stop trying to do everything at once and start asking what deserves my energy today, momentum becomes more sustainable.
Support Is Not a Shortcut — It’s a Strategy
For a long time, I wore independence like a badge of honor. But carrying everything alone eventually leads to exhaustion, not excellence.
Support doesn’t always look like a business partner or a full team. Sometimes it’s someone who listens. Someone who handles a task you dread. Someone who gives you permission to rest or reminds you who you are when you forget.
I’ve learned that asking for help doesn’t make you less capable—it makes you more effective. When we allow others to operate in their strengths, we free ourselves to focus on ours.
Burnout Isn’t Ambition — It’s a Warning
There’s a fine line between being driven and being depleted. I’ve crossed it more than once. Burnout often disguises itself as passion, hustle, or commitment, but the body always tells the truth eventually.
Sustainability requires self-awareness. You can’t build a life, brand, or legacy if you’re constantly running on empty. Rest, boundaries, and community aren’t rewards—you need them now, not later.
From Ideas to Execution: A Mindset Shift
I no longer measure success by how much I do. I measure it by alignment.
Execution becomes easier when you stop trying to prove yourself and start honoring your capacity. Delegation, collaboration, and focus aren’t signs of weakness; they’re signs of leadership.
Your job isn’t to do everything. Your job is to do what only you can do.
Living a multifaceted life means learning how to hold vision and structure at the same time. It means trusting yourself enough to adapt, ask for support, and move forward without abandoning who you are.
If this reflection resonated with you and you want to go deeper into how I navigate ideas, prioritization, and capacity in real time, I unpack this further on an episode of The Multifaceted Mindset Podcast.
🎧 Listen when you’re ready to explore how support and strategy work together.
Harnessing the Power of Vision Boards
There was a time when I loved the idea of vision boards more than the responsibility that came with them.
I was good at dreaming. Really good. I could imagine futures so vividly that they felt real—full of freedom, alignment, impact, and ease. My walls reflected my desires back to me in glossy images and affirmations. But behind the scenes, I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and quietly frustrated that my life didn’t look the way I imagined it would by now.
The disconnect wasn’t a lack of vision. It was a lack of grounded follow-through.
That realization changed everything.
The Problem With Only Visualizing
Vision boards are powerful. I still believe that. They give language to desires we haven’t fully named yet. They help us see ourselves beyond our current circumstances. They plant seeds.
But seeds don’t grow just because they’re beautiful.
For a long time, I treated vision as the work itself. I thought clarity alone would carry me forward. What I didn’t want to admit was that I was avoiding the uncomfortable parts: prioritizing, planning, asking for help, and staying consistent when the excitement wore off.
Without action, vision can quietly turn into self-betrayal.
The Shift: From Dreaming to Devotion
I had to get honest with myself. Not in a harsh way—but in a grounded, compassionate way.
I asked:
What am I actually doing to support the life I say I want?
Where am I romanticizing the outcome but avoiding the process?
What would it look like to move with intention instead of urgency?
That’s when my relationship with vision changed. It stopped being about manifestation aesthetics and started becoming about alignment.
I began to anchor my dreams in four core principles that now guide how I build, plan, and live.
The Framework I Live By
Gratitude keeps me rooted.
Being grateful for where I am doesn’t mean I’m settling—it means I’m grounded. Gratitude reminds me that the version of me I’m becoming is built by honoring the version of me that already exists.
Logistics keep me honest.
Dreams need structure. Timelines, resources, capacity checks. I stopped asking “What do I want?” and started asking “What does this actually require?” Clarity without logistics is just hope.
Audacity moves me forward.
At some point, planning has to turn into action. Not perfect action—brave action. The kind that feels slightly uncomfortable but deeply aligned. Audacity is choosing movement over fear.
Delusion keeps the fire alive.
This is the part where I believe in a future before it fully exists. Where I hold the vision even when the evidence isn’t loud yet. Not blind optimism—but intentional belief paired with effort.
Together, these principles remind me that vision isn’t passive. It’s a relationship. One that asks something of me in return.
What This Looks Like in Real Life
I stopped using affirmations as motivational fluff and started using them as emotional preparation.
Instead of saying “I am capable,”
I say “I am capable of holding my mistakes, my growth, and my becoming.”
Instead of tracking only outcomes, I track behaviors. The small, often unglamorous choices that compound over time. Rest. Follow-through. Showing up even when I don’t feel inspired.
This is where burnout began to loosen its grip. Not because I was doing less—but because I was doing what actually mattered.
The Empowerment in Aligned Action
Vision boards still matter to me. But now I see them for what they truly are: invitations.
Invitations to participate in my own becoming.
Invitations to match my imagination with integrity.
Invitations to choose devotion over dopamine.
If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or quietly disappointed that your life hasn’t caught up to your dreams yet, I want you to know this: there is nothing wrong with your vision.
It may just be asking you to meet it halfway.
And if this reflection resonates and you want to hear me unpack these ideas more candidly, you’re welcome to listen to the related conversation on The Multifaceted Mindset podcast—whenever it feels aligned for you.
Your vision deserves your presence, not just your hope.
The Power of Community for Multifaceted People
In a world that often rewards specialization, being a multifaceted person can feel both like a gift and a burden. You may be creative and analytical, introverted and outspoken, spiritual and strategic. You may move between identities, roles, cultures, or disciplines with ease—yet still feel pressure to “pick one lane.” For multifaceted people, community is not just helpful; it is essential.
Being Seen in Your Wholeness
Multifaceted people often struggle with feeling partially understood. In one space, you may be valued for your professionalism but not your creativity. In another, your emotional depth may be welcomed but your ambition misunderstood. A strong community allows you to show up as a whole person rather than editing yourself to fit expectations. When people can witness and affirm multiple sides of you, it becomes easier to embrace your own complexity without shame.
Reflection and Validation
Community acts as a mirror. Seeing others live fully in their contradictions reminds you that you are not “too much” or “all over the place.” Multifaceted communities validate that growth is nonlinear and that identity can be layered. This reflection helps dismantle the myth that consistency means sameness, replacing it with the truth that consistency can also mean alignment with your evolving self.
Shared Language, Shared Safety
When you find people who speak the same emotional, cultural, or creative language, something powerful happens: safety. Multifaceted people often navigate code-switching, masking, or constant translation. Community reduces that labor. It creates spaces where nuance is understood, curiosity is encouraged, and questions are welcomed. In these environments, you are free to explore rather than defend who you are.
Collaboration Over Comparison
Isolation can turn multifacetedness into self-doubt. Community transforms it into collaboration. When people with diverse talents and perspectives come together, comparison fades and synergy grows. You begin to see how your many interests connect with others’ strengths. Community shows you that your range is not a liability—it is a resource.
Grounding in Times of Change
Multifaceted people are often in motion—changing careers, redefining relationships, evolving beliefs. During these transitions, community provides grounding. It offers continuity when your outer life is shifting and reminds you of your core values when everything else feels fluid. Community doesn’t require you to stay the same; it supports you as you become.
A Collective Permission to Be More
Perhaps most importantly, community gives collective permission to be more than one thing. It challenges narrow definitions of success and identity. It invites you to expand, experiment, and integrate all the parts of yourself. For multifaceted people, this permission is liberating—and life-giving.
In the end, community is not about fitting in. It is about belonging while standing in your full complexity. For multifaceted people, the right community doesn’t ask you to simplify yourself. It helps you deepen, connect, and thrive together.
Step into Q4 Boldly with GLAD
Today is not only the first of the month, but the first day of Q4. For some this is their busy season, whereas for others work slows down and time with family increases. No matter what Q4 looks like for you, you can step into it boldly with the GLAD Philosophy.
GLAD is Gratitude, Logistics, Audacity, and Delusion.
Take time to audit what has been going well and what lessons you have learned. Celebrate yourself and bask in the gratitude for the people and opportunities you have been blessed with. Gratitude is more than just saying thank you. It is the reflection and celebration of both the past and present. Logistics and Audacity are the bridge that connects your Gratitude with Delusion, so we’ll come back to those.
After you look at and appreciate the past & present, you can then look to the future. Delusion is the idea of something that does not currently exist. Maybe your delusion is that you will have a 6 figure job by the end of 2025 or that your medical scans will come back clean. Even if that isn’t your reality as of today, that doesn’t mean it’s not possible in the future. Delusion is choosing faith over fear and dreams over nightmares.
Once you have appreciated where you are and decided where you want to go, your next steps are to come up with a plan (Logistics) and take action (Audacity). Your logistics may include applying to 10 jobs per week or going to the gym each morning to start your day. Your audacity may be to choose jobs you are not 100% qualified for or implementing a 24-hour fast each week.
No matter who you are or what’s going on in your Q4, don’t forget to reflect on who you are now (Gratitude), consider where you want to go (Delusion), and to be ruthless in planning & taking the necessary actions to get there (Logistics & Audacity).
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A Day in the Life of a Multifaceted Entrepreneur
Some mornings feel like possibility wrapped in sunlight. Others? Like you’re juggling five tabs in your brain before your feet even hit the floor. That’s life when you’re building something bigger than you.
Meet Nia, a multifaceted woman leading with purpose. She’s an entrepreneur, a big dreamer, and a bold decision-maker who’s learning to balance strategy with self-care.
8:00 AM — Grounded Start
Nia starts her day with presence, not pressure. She lights her favorite candle, opens her digital GLAD journal, and sets intentions:
Gratitude for how far she’s come
Logistics for what needs her attention
Audacity to pitch herself boldly
Delusion to believe in a vision nobody else can see—yet
This practice doesn’t just align her focus. It reminds her why she’s building a life of freedom and flexibility in the first place.
11:30 AM — CEO Mode Activated
From coaching calls to content planning to reviewing partnership proposals, Nia flows through the day with clarity. Her calendar is full, but not frantic—each task is tied to impact.
She pauses for a midday walk and checks in with her private community inside The Multifaceted Collective. A quick scroll reminds her: she’s not the only one chasing legacy while living life on her terms.
6:30 PM CST — Bestie Hour
It’s Wednesday. That means Bestie Hour.
Nia logs into the weekly co-working session inside The Multifaceted Collective. It’s a sacred space for celebration, strategy, and sisterhood.
“Y’all, I almost didn’t show up tonight…” she shares as the chat lights up with encouragement. By the end of the hour, she’s energized, focused, and back in motion. That’s the power of building in community.
9:00 PM — Reflect, Refill, Repeat
As the day winds down, Nia reflects on her wins—both big and small. She sets down the weight of perfection and chooses to celebrate progress.
Because being a multifaceted woman isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing what matters most, with heart.
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What does it mean to be Multifaceted?
As children, we are told we can do anything we put our minds to and that nothing is impossible; however, the second we enter “the real world” that all changes. The rose-colored glasses that allowed us just to exist have now become the pressure of society to choose a niche, pick a specialty, and think inside the box. Although many succumb to that pressure, there’s a handful of us who put the rose-colored glasses back on as we choose to design our lives, define our legacies, and set the tone!
To be Multifaceted is to be made up of many aspects. We are not just one passion, project, title, or idea. We are the combination of many ideas, uniquely put together and wrapped in a bow, better known as our names. Our life consists of transformations and balancing each day.
Multifaceted Women Leaders do not live a life where priorities have an order, but one where their priorities orbit. Our energy management allows us to recognize what needs more energy and when. “You’re doing too much” or “I want to be like you when I grow up” are phrases we often encounter because we are BUILT DIFFERENT!
When I think about being Multifaceted, I think about my flexibility, adaptability, and ease in understanding new concepts. Multifaceted Women Leaders are Jills of all trades, masters of none, but oftentimes better than the master of one!
If you resonate with the idea of being Multifaceted, Multipassionate, a Multipotentialite, or a Multihyphenate and are seeking community, check out the Multifaceted Collective Community.
Sincerely,
Multifaceted Black Guide
Chasing Dollars or Chasing Impact
When I started building the Multifaceted Collective, my biggest hurdle was deciding on a cost. I had an internal battle because in my heart I despised the idea of charging people for community, but in my head I knew building a free community would not be sustainable energy-wise and financially.
That battle alone left me stuck for months. No members, no meetings, and no revenue, which meant I wasn’t making the impact that I wanted to. This all changed when I decided to just start. I started to invite people and I launched Bestie Hour. It’s a 1-hour session where members of the Collective come together to talk and support each other. We don’t just talk about our businesses, but our lives. We give each other advice, opportunities, and celebration.
After hearing their stories and seeing the impact being made on their lives with just the simple 1-hour sessions, I understood my calling. I realized that my purpose wasn’t too build generational wealth in the financial aspect, but in the community realm.
Many people limit generational wealth to money, but don’t realize it also includes having a support system, being mentally stable, having control over your emotions, and even living a life of abundance, flexibility, and fulfillment. I no longer wanted my journey to be about chasing dollars, but chasing impact, which for me looks like:
Choosing Faith Over Fear I can not subject myself to fear of failure, fear of success, or even fear of risk. Anytime I move out of fear I make decisions that don’t align with my values and cause me to move backward or remain stagnant. Whatever space faith doesn’t occupy, fear will conquer!
Planning with the GLAD Framework GLAD is Gratitude, Logistics, Audacity, & Delusion. Anytime I need to plan I use this framework because it enables me to celebrate where I am, identify where I want to go, create the steps to get there, and take audacious actions. Be grateful for who you are and what you have, so that you can stay grounded as you move toward the delusion of creating a reality that doesn’t currently exist.
Seek Transformation over Information Oftentimes, we choose to chase information. We think we need to know everything before we start. When in reality, wisdom comes with the process. Instead of focusing on fast-tracking the process, I choose to focus on being intentional with my transformation. Consider who you or the project is to become and be consistent in taking the steps needed to get there. Remember that the steps you need to take may include seeking information, but are NOT information hoarding! Knowledge is to be shared, not to be held.
Reflect on whether you have been focused on chasing dollars or chasing impact and decide if that’s the path you want to take.
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Balancing Work & Life
When you are multifaceted, the amount of work, responsibilities, and priorities you have can become infinite. You may also experience random bursts of motivation towards a specific project that leave you staying up late working through your excitement. If this sounds like an experience you have had, you may be wondering how to create more balance in your work and life during these periods or in general.
As the Multifaceted Black Guide, I want to provide you with some ways to work on creating a harmonious balance in your life based on my knowledge and personal experiences. These include making decisions rooted in your values, not getting on your phone first thing in the morning, and choosing discipline over inconsistency.
Values-Based Decision Making
My top 3 values are family, freedom, and faith. When I am approached with opportunities or decisions that need to be made I remember my values and choose accordingly.
After graduating with my Bachelor’s Degree, I had two options to choose from: a salaried insurance job 7 hours away from my family or a multifaceted Master’s Degree back at home. Obviously when it came to family I leaned towards the degree, but when it came to freedom the insurance job would provide me the financial freedom I desired. The last value, faith, became the final deciding factor. I chose to have faith in the financial stability coming back ten-fold, especially since I know how short life can be.
This translates to working long nights because of a burst of energy or even taking on an extra client no matter your current load.
First Action in the Morning
When you wake up in the morning, what’s the first thing that you do? If you said check your phone, then this suggestion is for you.
Consider replacing your phone with something that brings you peace and can start your day off right. Whether this is journaling, reading a book, stretching, or even bible study. Starting your day off right will allow you to feel better and make caring for your well-being an integrated part of your day rather than a chore.
Life is more than social media, emails, texts, and calls. Your health is wealth. Remember to take care of yourself and pour into you, so that you are able to overflow onto others!
Discipline Over Inconsistency
As a multifaceted creative coming up with a new idea or starting on a new hobby, I get enthralled and motivated to fast track its path from ideation to reality. Although getting it done quick allows me to get feedback and kinks out sooner, 12-24 hour turn arounds may be a little too quick. Staying up all night and looking at the screen until your eyes hurt shows excitement, but if its something you are only doing when you’re motivated, you are missing out on the true fast track to success: discipline.
Although powerful our brains do not operate at their full potential for hours and hours on end. This can lead to the content you worked on till midnight having a gradual decrease in quality leaving you with mistakes to clean up the next day. All of this can be avoided with the discipline to establish a cutoff time, take breaks, and show up even when you aren’t motivated.
So tell me, have you been balancing work and life or will these help you start to?
4 Ways to Incorporate Gratitude into Your Business
Entrepreneurship can feel like a never-ending hustle. But what if the secret to sustainable success isn’t just strategy, but mindset? At the Multifaceted Collective, we encourage everyone to operate from the G.L.A.D. philosophy, which you can learn more about here. G.L.A.D. stands for Gratitude, Logistics, Audacity, and Delusion. The G.L.A.D. philosophy starts with G for Gratitude because operating out of a state of thankfulness is the perspective needed for growth both personally and professionally. Gratitude is a strategic advantage that can not only reshape your mindset, but your business.
The impact made by Gratitude isn’t just anecdotal. Research from Positive Psychology proves it enhances resilience, well-being, and success. Gratitude is capable of releasing toxic emotions, reducing pain, improving sleep quality, aiding in stress regulation, and even reducing anxiety and depression. There’s even a positive correlation between resilience and gratitude. When we are in a state of Gratitude, we often can find the positive things, fight negative thoughts, identify solutions, and sustain relationships with our community. Being a grateful entrepreneur will overflow onto everyone you come in contact with including customers, employees, and family.
Morning gratitude journaling for entrepreneurs.
As a multifaceted entrepreneur, I often have a million thoughts racing through my mind. The best way I have found to combat that is through journaling. Each morning it’s the first thing I do, so that I can start my day off on the right foot.Sending thoughtful appreciation notes to clients and partners.
Sometimes we just want to know we are cared for and appreciated. Make it a habit to tell someone how much you appreciate them and the work they do because without our clients, partners, and employees our businesses wouldn’t be able to thrive.
Creating a “Gratitude Wins” list to track progress.
Gratitude is more than just saying thank you. It can also be acknowledging progress, extending grace, and celebrating growth. Take the time each day, week, or month to create a Gratitude Wins list. Talk about what you are grateful for no matter how big or small. For example, today my list would consist of: The ability to write, Pilot G2 pens, My dog, and The air in my lungs
Incorporating gratitude into goal-setting and reflections.
When you are planning your next milestone or reflecting on a recent one, think about where you came from versus where you are now or where you are headed. Living in the moment and appreciating the present allows you to enjoy the journey because life moves fast.
Try these Gratitude practices for a week and notice how your mindset and business begin to shift. Let us know what changes you experience!
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How to Increase Your Discipline
One day, I stepped on the scale and was thrilled to see that I had lost 6 pounds. Exactly one month later, I had not only gained those 6 pounds back, but an additional 6 pounds. The reason why I went from being down 6 pounds to gaining 12 has everything to do with DISCIPLINE.
When I started my weight loss journey, I was well aware it started with a mindset change just like all transformations do. I had to actively decide that I desired reaching my goal more than I desired the comfort and stagnation of being the same. This doesn’t just apply to weight loss, though. I had to go through similar decision-making when it came to getting my Master’s Degree, moving to a different state, and starting a nonprofit organization.
Discipline is often prayed for or blamed as the reason behind goals falling to the wayside, when in reality, the problem starts with your mindset. Discipline is tied to doing, whereas mindset is tied to thinking. Here are a couple of ways to shift your mindset to increase your discipline:
1) Daily Affirmations
By creating mantras or affirmations that are directly tied to to goal you are reaching, you will be able to reinforce the belief that they are true. I change out my affirmations each month because it gives me enough time to truly believe in the words I am saying, in addition to fine-tuning the affirmations for my current situation. For example, I am in a season where I can focus on investing in myself and my businesses, so my June affirmations are:
2) Journaling/Habit Tracking
Before you start making the change, notate the thoughts, feelings, and habits you currently possess. By keeping track of these, you will be able to better understand your pitfalls and roadblocks. If you are having similar negative thoughts each day about your body, they may be showing up in your wardrobe. You are likely wearing comfortable, baggy clothes to hide your body, not realizing you are reinforcing those thoughts. Once you recognize these patterns, begin to create a plan to combat them. This shows up for me with exercise. I would ruminate over not liking how my clothes fit, but despised the thought of driving to the gym after a long day of work, working out when it’s crowded, and I didn’t enjoy at-home body weight workouts. To combat my pattern of not working out because of those roadblocks, I found a way to make my desire to exercise work for me. Instead of going to the gym at 6 pm when everyone is there, I go early in the morning as a way to jumpstart my day. Starting my day at the gym removes all the barriers I originally created with my thoughts. Now I can replace the negative patterns with a schedule that makes me want to go to the gym!
3) Replace Excuses with Execution
Discipline is made more difficult when excuses are introduced. Combat those excuses with execution, whether that shows up as executing the action or executing a reframe for that excuse. This tip alone will close the gap between Gratitude and Delusion. When your thoughts say you can’t make money with that idea, reframe that into executing the idea and letting the profit speak for itself. Or, when you begin to think that rain is a sign not to go for a walk, consider that the rain may be encouraging you to cleanse yourself of negativity and reconnect with your true, grounded nature.
Remember: your thoughts become your beliefs, and those beliefs become your actions. Everything starts with your mind. When you’re ready to clarify which thoughts truly serve you, check out the Chaos to Clarity Guided Journal.
3 Habit-Building Strategies That Actually Work
If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably read a dozen blogs and books on habits, including how to build, break, or make them stick. But if we’re being real… knowing isn’t the same as doing. Life gets busy, and even with the best intentions, we can fall into cycles of chaos that pull us away from who we’re becoming.
Here are 3 simple yet powerful strategies that help you build habits that support your growth, not just in theory, but in your real, multifaceted life.
1) Habit Stacking: Attach new habits to something you’re already doing.
Instead of starting from scratch, build from your current rhythm. If you’re already brushing your teeth in the morning, use that time to say affirmations. If you journal with your coffee, add a five-minute gratitude practice to the end. Stack the new on top of the familiar—it creates less resistance and makes it easier for the habit to become automatic.
Try this: “After I pour my morning coffee, I will write down 3 things I’m grateful for.”
2) Reduce or Add Friction: Make it easy to do the good habits, and harder to fall into the not-so-good ones.
Want to drink more water? Keep your water bottle in plain sight. Want to scroll less? Move your social apps off your home screen (or delete them during your focused hours). We tend to think we lack discipline—but really, we just need better systems.
Ask yourself: How can I make the habit I want easier to start? And how can I make the habits I want to break a little harder to access?
3) Create Specific Cues: Anchor your habit to a time, place, or event.
Vague goals like “I’ll start meditating” don’t work because your brain needs a trigger. Try “I’ll meditate for five minutes right after I drop the kids off” or “I’ll take a walk every day at 6 p.m.” Time, location, or a daily event can become the mental cue that prompts your new habit.
Choose a trigger: Is it after a meal? When you sit at your desk? Before you check emails?
The truth is: building habits isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about aligning your routines with the version of you that already exists within. The woman you’re becoming already has the clarity, discipline, and power you need. You just need to create an environment that makes it easier for her to show up.
Ready to move from chaos to clarity in your daily life?
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You’ve got this. One habit at a time.
3 Signs You're Operating in Chaos
Let’s be honest: chaos isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s silent. It creeps in slowly, tucked behind our color-coded calendars, endless to-do lists, and forgotten water bottles. One moment, we’re “just busy” and the next, we’re stuck in cycles that drain our energy, stifle our creativity, and cloud our vision.
If you’ve been feeling a little off lately, it might not just be a rough week. You might be operating in chaos. Here are three signs it’s time to pause, reset, and realign:
1. Constantly Overwhelmed
You’re always doing something, but somehow, nothing feels done. When I don’t have clarity around my offers or services, I find myself buried in busywork instead of meaningful progress. Maybe you’ve been there too — endlessly revamping your website, gathering more information for tasks you already know how to do, or obsessively color-coding your calendar instead of making actual moves. It’s not that you’re lazy, it’s that your energy is scattered. Without clarity, chaos becomes the default.
2. Neglecting Self-Care
Let’s call it what it is: when life feels chaotic, self-care often becomes an afterthought. When I’m deep in chaos, I forget to eat, drink water, or even do basic things like laundry. It’s like my body gets left behind while my mind runs on fumes. The build-up is real. Cluttered spaces lead to cluttered minds, and cluttered minds create even more chaotic lives. It’s a cycle that can feel hard to break until you consciously choose to reset and put yourself back on the priority list.
3. A Lack of Creativity
For me, clarity and creativity are best friends. One of my greatest passions is writing and performing poetry. When I’m clear and aligned, the words pour out of me with ease. But when I’m in chaos, it feels like my pen dries up. Every metaphor feels forced. Every idea feels muddy. When your creativity is stifled, it’s a sign that your spirit needs breathing room. Chaos suffocates inspiration, but clarity gives it wings.
Here’s the good news: Chaos isn’t permanent. You have the power to clear the clutter, reconnect with yourself, and move forward with purpose and peace.
Ready to step out of chaos and into clarity? Get Your Clarity Journal today and let’s design the life you were made for.
Balancing Priorities
Hey Besties,
When it comes to being Multifaceted, balancing your priorities becomes mandatory! Balancing work, life, and purpose starts with energy management in my life. We only have 24 hours a day, but the level of energy we have fluctuates and directly affects how much work we can get done. Here are three tips for you to improve your prioritization skills.
1. Replace Time Management with Energy Management - Approaching time management from an energy standpoint allows you to increase your discernment with prioritization. Rather than booking meetings during the time your body needs fuel, consider blocking off a standing lunchtime. On the days when you have a lot of meetings, schedule fewer admin tasks to be accomplished that day so you can have a mental break.
2. Orbit vs Order - My second tip for balancing is recognizing that your priorities orbit rather than having an order. Some days your family may require more for you and the next day you might require more for yourself and that is PERFECTLY FINE! Order limits you to catering to one priority more than others, whereas orbits allow the energy given to flow based on circumstance.
3. Weekly Tasks vs Daily Tasks - After making a new to-do list each day for a couple of years, I found that it caused more stress than satisfaction. Now, I create a list for the week of the main tasks I need to get accomplished. Giving myself a week instead of one day allowed me to feel less pressure and gave me the freedom to adjust my days based on my life.
No two days will look the same as a Multifaceted person, so give yourself grace as you manage your energy, allow your priorities to orbit, and approach tasks weekly rather than on a daily basis.
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From Discouraged Writer to Confident Speaker
As I start my week, I begin to think about when I was in 5th grade. My teacher was very quirky and had us doing fun projects like writing an 80s/90s-themed song with graffiti cover art, short stories about any and everything, or listening to songs like "The Breaks" by Kurtis Blow.
We would write papers very often and I was always discouraged because she would say "Eternity, this paper is great. I just have a few suggestions". Next thing I knew my paper turned into a bloody massacre from all the red markings she had made. From that point on, I was convinced that I was a bad writer.
Until one day, someone introduced me to poetry and convinced me to start writing again. That writing turned into performing, which has now turned into being a public speaker. What once broke my spirit and kept me from being confident in my writing abilities, became the reason I am a critical thinker and creative writer. This is a mild example of ACEs. ACEs are any Adverse Childhood experiences that occur under the age of 18 that affect who you are as an adult. Other examples include bullying, violence, neglect, mental health issues, etc. I have the honor to participate in an ACEs Awareness International Conference April 25 - 27. Who knew something so little could have affected me so much?
If you are interested in joining me at the conference, secure your tickets here. Otherwise, I encourage you to learn more about ACEs and reflect on how they could affect you as an adult.
Here’s to clarity and connection,
Eternity Sledge
Multifaceted Black Girl
4 Steps to Transform Your Life
All the “gurus” teach many different methods and approaches to changing one's life. The issue is that it is difficult to maintain the momentum for many of them. They encourage you to make many changes at once or push you into unsustainable choices rather than a lifestyle change.
If you are feeling lost, burnt out, or stuck, there’s a 4 step cycle you can repeat to take you from Chaos to Clarity. Identify, Visualize, Reframe, and Take Action are the 4 simple steps keeping you from transforming your life.
Identify.
First, you must identify who you are. What do you like to do? What are your values? What do you dislike? The decisions you make should align with your values. Alignment allows you to overflow onto others and operate in your purpose even if you haven’t yet identified what it is. Find your Ikigai.Visualize.
Begin with the end in mind. What does your ideal life look like? What are you wearing? Who do you spend time with? Where do you put your energy? We are often asked about our Dream Career, getting married, or starting a family; however, there’s more to your ideal life than your titles. Dream up everything about your life including your hobbies, routines, and the way your values show up in your day-to-day life.Reframe.
Roadblocks will always stop you from reaching your goals if you don’t reframe your mind. Changing your perspective on your roadblocks starts with having a growth mindset and leads to making decisions to overcome those barriers. For example, if you want to buy a house, but you don’t know any homeowners; instead of deciding you can’t get the house because no one in your environment has one, seek out homeowner’s educational classes, network with realtors, or start with a Youtube video about how to buy a home. A lacking mindset will always be limited, so keep your mindset living in abundance.Take Action.
Be audacious. Small steps will bring you closer to the goal than no steps. What habits do you need to build to take action? What habits do you need to replace? Who is in your social support system that will hold you accountable? What systems can you implement to make audacious actions easier to make? Taking action starts with deciding you value your goals more than your comfort.
Sincerely,
Multifaceted Black Guide
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4 Ways to Enhance Time Management in 2025
So, your alarm clock blares after you hit snooze for the 3rd time on a Monday morning. Work needs you by 9 am, but you groggily roll out of bed a quarter till. Yes, you get there on time, just barely, since you skipped breakfast and drove over the speed limit. Or maybe you’re cramming a project into the last few hours before it’s due when you had two weeks to complete it beforehand.
Does this sound familiar?
If the answer is yes, don’t fret—we have 4 effective and life-changing tips to enhance your time management. It’s common for time to slip away and for plans to be more prolonged or shorter than expected but, through the uncertainty, you can evolve and adapt to the demands of the ticking clock.
One thing to ponder: Is this snowball effect avoidable?
1) Time Blocking
Have you ever found yourself daunted by the 24 hours of the day? In theory, we have all that time, but in practice, different priorities and commitments slice right through those hours. But with time blocking, you’ll divvy up tasks throughout the day. Todoist defines time blocking as, “a time management method where you divide your day into blocks of time—kind of self-explanatory, right?
Meet Lily. Lily must prepare for an important presentation tomorrow, respond to a never-ending list of emails, and meet up with her friends for dinner. With 24 hours (give or take) knocking at the door, she takes a deep breath and opens an excel spreadsheet. She types out all the hours of the day and allocates, or blocks off, time for her various tasks. So, from 8:00- 9:00 am she’ll get ready and eat breakfast, from 9:00-10:30 am, she’ll work on her presentation, and continue to block out time as so. Lily finds that her tasks aren’t whirling around her since she sets boundaries for when she’ll work on each one. Bonus, she’s fully relaxed while hanging out with her friends all thanks to time-blocking!
2) Reclaim.ai
DIY is great, it’s rewarding even, but sometimes blocking off your tasks yourself can be pretty taxing. That’s why we suggest Reclam.ai! This interactive and innovative app tracks your analytics like tracking how much time you spend on tasks every week. With this info, it uses AI to auto generate a time blocked schedule that works best for you!
So, maybe Lily forgot she signed up for Reclam.ai two weeks ago, and decided to check out what kind of schedule they generated for her with her presentation and other tasks in mind. She finds that schedule to be effective and dives right into it!
3) Intentionality
You never felt so proud after time-blocking your schedule for the week perfectly! However, on a lovely Monday, you’re going a few hours over the marks, causing the rest of your day to unravel at the seams. You become so frustrated you nearly trash the entire idea of time-blocking and perhaps time management, too! But, your 2025 goals remind you that time management was in your top 5! So Instead of erasing the idea, you sit at your desk and deliberate over your schedule and make adjustments that work for you! The pressure lifts as you realize it’s okay to struggle; changes can always be made while learning new methods.
Intentionally is a foundational step to efficient time management. Google defines intentionality as “the fact of being deliberate and purposive.” Can we break that down more? Absolutely! As much as you consider what obligations and tasks you must fulfill throughout the day, and how much time you block out for them, you must be intentional about practicing these skills. Even if that’s setting mini goals for yourself like sticking to your time-blocked calendar for a full week, that’s a step in the right direction!
4) Pomodoro Method
Not a big picture person? You see the forest is full of trees, shrubbery, and so on? Then you’ll love the Pomodoro Method.
Imagine you have a PowerPoint presentation due by the end of the week. Your work is cut out: research and filling in the slides. Let’s not forget your assortment of daily tasks simple as eating lunch or taking your dog for a walk. As you stare at this mountainous presentation you think about the Pomodoro Method you’ve been wanting to try. So, you make a list of steps it will take to complete the project and assign 25 minute intervals to complete them. You spend 25 minutes on finding sources, 25 minutes compiling the info into slides, and so on. Most importantly, you take 5 minute breaks in between and extend them after four 25 minute intervals (todoist). Although you don’t complete the presentation in one day, the mountain turns into a foothill you merrily roll down thanks to tiny intervals The Pomodoro Method consists of.
This method emphasizes working on tasks in “bite-sized” time intervals, generally 25 minutes per task and taking breaks in between. Also, the task can be one huge project where you take smaller steps to chip away at.
So, to return to our question earlier: is this snowball effect avoidable? Absolutely, through methods and resources such as Time-blocking, Reclaim.ai, Intentionality, and Pomodoro Method, you can manage your time well in advance to be well prepared!
Eager for more positive change in 2025? Check out this Chaos to Clarity Journal: a self-reflection journal designed to inspire change and cultivate healthy habits; most importantly, learn more about you!
SOURCES:
https://www.todoist.com/productivity-methods/time-blocking
https://www.todoist.com/productivity-methods/pomodoro-technique
3 Tips For Nurturing Relationships Daily
Life is painted with relationships that span from family to coworkers and the possibilities of connections blossoming into relationships are nearly infinite. This is a facet of life’s beauty but to say the quiet part out loud: maintaining relationships can be overwhelming. You want to remind people how valuable their presence is but find yourself daunted by ensuring every relationship is nurtured, often in some grand way.
Here’s the good news: nurturing relationships doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. These three simple tips will help you build stronger, more meaningful connections in your daily life.
Consistency
We all know the adage “actions speak louder than words.” Whether showing up on time or following through with a favor or task you stated you would fulfill, ensuring your behavior aligns with the expectation you granted matters. Also, we understand, life happens, but communicating when you can’t follow through or show up lets others know you value their time and presence. According to Hello Coach, “consistency is key to building trust.”
Think of your friend Shayla, who’s been dying to catch up over coffee. You agreed to meet next Saturday but canceled at the last minute because something else came up. What if, instead, you stuck to that commitment—or at least rescheduled right away with an apology and a new date? Those small, consistent actions add up, letting people know they can count on you.Random acts of kindness
Who wouldn’t appreciate a coworker buying our lunch on a random Wednesday? Or the car in front of you paying for your order in the drive-thru? These random acts of kindness are a great way to show those around you that you care. When you offer thoughtful acts of kindness, people feel seen and appreciated. Mental Health Foundation UK says that “[random acts of kindness] reduces stress, improves our emotional well-being and even benefits our physical health.
Take Action Today: Surprise someone with a small act of kindness—a text, a coffee, or even paying for the next car in the drive-thru. Watch how the positivity ripples outward.Intentionality
Google provides two definitions for the word “intentionality”: “The fact of being deliberate or purposive”, and the definition categorized under philosophy, “the quality of mental states (e.g., thoughts, beliefs, desires, hopes) that consists in their being directed toward some object or state of affairs.” Both definitions can be applied to relationships because the goal is to be thoughtful and deliberate in what you do for others and how you lead your life. Like consistency, intentionality reflects through your actions, and striving to be consistent and clear with your intentions lets people know you care deeply about how that affects them.
Imagine you’re catching up with your brother, and he mentions feeling drained from work. Instead of just nodding, you follow up with a thoughtful question: “What’s been the most stressful part for you? Is there anything I can do to help?” This intentional approach not only deepens your bond but also shows that you genuinely care about his well-being.
Or think about setting boundaries: Your friend Maya told you she’s not comfortable texting late at night because it disrupts her sleep. You honor her request and text during the day instead, showing her that her needs are important to you.
Nurturing relationships doesn’t require grand gestures or constant effort. By focusing on consistency, random acts of kindness, and intentionality, you can deepen your connections and create a ripple effect of love and trust in your life.
Ready to Thrive? Explore The Multifaceted Collective to find tools, workshops, and resources to strengthen your relationships and create a balanced, fulfilling lifestyle. Let’s grow together—join The Multifaceted Collective today!
Sources:
https://hello-coach.com/blog/the-power-of-consistency-in-building-stronger-relationships/